Put two people in a house together, and you’ll have some disagreements. Now throw two toddlers in the mix and you’ve got total chaos.
Having kids, work hardships, household duties, and maintaining relationships with other family members all has major impacts on all of us and our marriages. I know, this is major news, lol, we all deal with it. But hey, that’s life. This is one of the reasons we marvel at older couples who celebrate their 50-something-anniversaries. We all hope we can one day be like those old couples…but for now, we’re focusing on not biting each others heads off during this quarantine.
Maintaining Marital Sanity
While we’re both at home, it’s easier to get stuff done around the house and easier for one of us to take a break if needed. We can take shifts with the kids. This may sound like we’re just handing them off to one another, and trying to get rid of them, but, no. It’s important to make sure both parents get their own alone, relaxation time while the other spends quality bonding time with the kids.
My husband has his ways of relaxing, like cleaning out the garage or working out, and I have mine. I can’t speak for him, but I can can tell you what works for me. I take much needed bubble baths, I lose myself in cooking, I play my music…and even if this only lasts an 20 minutes, I’ll take it. This helps my sanity and, in turn, makes me a better parent.
Something equally as important as time apart is time spent together. Make it a point to set aside some time for each other. Get back to that lusty teenager phase of yours and make it a priority to be intimate more often. Its good for us let go of all this adult gunk for a single night. Let go, and laugh. Oh, thats an important one. Laugh! Watch movies so funny you’ll both discover unrecognizably ugly laughs. The point is to let go. You spend so much time around kids, yet you don’t give yourself a chance to be one anymore.
I’m not saying that we always have the chance to do these things for each other, but when we make it happen, we wonder why we don’t do it all the time.
Then we hear our two kids crying, and we remember why. No matter what, though, we are a strong family unit and will get through anything. This will only make us better as partners and parents.
Jessica — Mom of Sophie & Jake