Two years ago my very first grandchild was born. The last two years have been eventful, exciting, and full of love. I guess having little ones around tends to bring out the best in all of us.
Now my oldest daughter, Jessica, will soon be a mother for the second time. Which means little Sophie, who is two, will not be center of attention anymore. I think this scares all of us. Sophie is our first grandchild, and my daughter and son-in-law’s first child. From the moment Miss Sophie arrived, it’s been “Sophie’s world.” It’s all about Miss Sophie!
Grandma To The Rescue!
I spend time alone with Sophie about once a week. We do all the things at my house, that she doesn’t get to do at her house. Like washing grandma’s wall with the dog’s water.
I love being the fun grandma with very few rules. But what happens when the new baby comes? I feel that the new parents may need some bonding time with the newest little one… but, I also know there will be concerns about Miss Sophie’s reaction and feelings. I also know Jessica and Kyle will be a lot more tired taking care of a new baby and Sophie may think mommy and daddy aren’t as fun anymore.
This is where I come in (thinking of buying a super hero cape)..….As mother of five children myself, I know a new baby creates a small dilemma with the older sibling. I plan on spending a lot more time with Sophie one-on-one so she feels special.
I will point out the “perks” of being two and not a baby anymore. After all, babies’ can’t eat ice cream or candy. When I take Sophie to the playground, I will point out that the baby is too little to go and has to stay home. When I bring baby brother a gift, I will try to remember to always bring her a treat or something small. I never want her to feel she’s been replaced or not important anymore.
When I have both grandkids in my home, I will encourage Sophie to help with her brother’s care, and praise her for her help. Do I have it all figured out? Probably not. I say all this, but what is really going to happen? I will have to let you all know when baby brother arrives. But, for now, I have the right intentions.
We all know nothing goes completely as planned. But, I’m ready to give this a go! I secretly hope this will bring us closer, wouldn’t that be the icing on the cake?
Venita — Grandma of Sophie and Audrey