Hello, fellow sleepless moms! My name is Megan MaGill, and I am living life blended. As the mom of a (new) blended family, I experience all kinds of interesting and unexpected circumstances. I married young, had two beautiful children, and after years of counseling, deliberation, and soul-searching, I made the difficult decision to get divorced.
At the age of 28, with a 5-year-old and a 2-year-old in tow, I began a new life as a single mom. I poured myself into my children, my job, and my personal happiness. Although my goal was to thrive as a single, independent woman, the universe had other plans for me.
Living Life Blended
Enter Eli, the actual man of my dreams. Tall, strong, radiating positivity, and get this… he has two kids of his own! After getting to know each other and falling in love, the careful planning of introductions to one another’s children, and finally introducing our kids to their future step-siblings, we settled into the comforting chaos of blended family life. Every day is different and presents its own unique challenges. Just when I think I’ve got it figured out, I have one of those sleepless nights that we are all very familiar with. Having four kids between the ages of 3 and 7, albeit not 100% of the time, can be exhausting. So why is that little voice in my head nagging me to have another baby?
Oh, the coveted “Ours” baby. You may not be familiar with the term, but chances are, you know one; you may even be one. An “Ours” baby is the product of a couple who already has children from an earlier relationship. There is just something about being with my soulmate that stirs up the urge to create a baby that is half of him, and half of me. What would he or she look like? What would he or she excel at? What would it feel like to not have to drop the baby off with their Dad or Mom at the end of each week or weekend? Our four littles having the opportunity to share a sibling melts my heart. A baby that is truly ours would be such an incredible gift.
Realistically, though, the decision to have an “Ours” baby is not an easy one to make. Although I am only 30, having a baby would mean completely starting over. Not planning on having any more children after my two cuties, I got rid of all of the baby gear, and I have completely forgotten what it’s like to have an infant.
Can I do it again? Can I do it again with 4 other children who have rotating schedules, and individual needs? I’m not sure, and that terrifies me. There is also the question of what having a new baby in the family would mean for the kids that we already have. I never want my children to feel like they aren’t as special or as important as a new baby would be. Maybe we should count our blessings as a blended family with four beautiful, healthy children.
Guest Writer – Megan MaGill
For more on Megan and her adorable blended fam, check out her blog at https://livinglifeblended.com